Being in a relationship is tough but maintaining it is tougher. It is true that a relationship needs love, commitment, dedication and trust to grow but it also needs a lot of things apart from these essentials. It’s difficult to define the overall dos and don’ts. However, some behaviors cross the line no matter what. If your partner’s engaging in any of the following, it may be time for you to think carefully about where your relationship is headed and whether you’ re getting the treatment you deserve.
Here are some things I feel that shouldn’t be allowed in an ideal relationship:
Monitoring Your Activities
Just because you’re dating somebody, doesn’t mean they need to know where you are or what you’re doing 24/7. They should respect your need to be by yourself and maintain a certain level of privacy when you’re already sharing so much of who are you with them.
Someone who claims to care about you has zero right or reason to put you down. It may not seem like a big deal that he said you sounded stupid asking his friend some question, but how would you feel if your friend chastised you for the same thing? Chances are, you probably wouldn’t put up with it.
Being talked down to or belittled should never be allowed in a relationship from both partners as it weakens the longevity of a relationship.
Once or twice if something falls through is understandable but a constant stream of excuses isn’t acceptable.
Don’t tell yourselves what to do. Don’t tell yourselves where to and can’t go.
Avoidance of Your Family
You will have to accept that tolerating your family may not be everyone’s favorite thing to do, let alone your own. However, if your significant other refuses to make the compromise to spend time with them on at least major holidays, you’ve got a real selfish bastard on your hands.
Women are honest. They tell you they ran into their ex-getting coffee. They will tell you someone hit on them at the bar. They won’t leave you in the dark when it comes to anything. They expect the same loyalty in return from their partner. If they catch you in a lie they question if they can trust you and if they can’t trust you, there is no foundation that they can build a relationship on.
Never tolerate cheating.
Strong women know the value of their time. She’s not going to sit by her phone waiting for you. She also has the confidence to make any move she wants and she won’t bat an eye about it. Don’t text her three days later and expect a response because she knows her worth and your inability to see it has nothing to do with her.
Lack of Support.
Support is needed from both partners especially by women. They go after things and do much more than an average person does. If you don’t have her back and actually believe in her and motivate her she doesn’t need you in her life.
Strong women don’t respond to manipulation. So don’t even try.
Jealousy is a sign of insecurity don’t waste your time on it as it cannot help grow a relationship. When in doubt, ask your partner to help clear the ground.
One habit that can kill the relationship is neglect. Make sure you’re in constant communication with your partner even though time and resources are limited in supply.